later look at how far she’s come
Love and relationships have become more complex over the years. The rates of breakups and divorces have drastically increased, with people shifting partners on the go. Naturally, a heartbreak impacts people badly. It affects their mental and emotional state, especially if the relationship has lasted for a really long time.
Some individuals come in the scope of marriage at an early age. While half of those marriages last forever, the other half comes crashing down instantly leaving the individual clueless about life. A number of things are put at stake kudos to an early marriage. For some, it might affect their education, while for others it hampers their work. Some other individuals also end up with children which adds to their time, expense and most importantly, responsibility. Recently, I had a conversation with a distant aunt of mine who I believe is a fighter. She got married at the age of 20 years, went through not one but two divorces shortly after and ended up with my cousins. Thankfully, she had her parents to fall back on who supported her till their last breath. She tells me about her crazy experiences and how she overcame those hurdles,
ES: Did you consent to getting married at such an early age?
Interviewee: Age is just a number when it comes to marriage. I got married at 20 to a man who my parents chose for me. Our dads were business partner, which further give rise to our union. The first few months were magical, as I believed I had found the love of my life. However, all good things come to and end and so did my marriage. Things were not working out for us since he was abusive in nature and so we ended up with a mutual divorce.
ES: You were so young. Was it hard to raise your kids alone?
Interviewee: I was around your age when I got married and yes it was really hard. To know that you have to parent your kids alone without a partner is tough. At times, I felt like giving up as well. But when you do not have a partner, you have your kids as your ray of hope. They made living feel better and everything I have been doing so far has been for them.
ES: So what are you upto these days? Are you looking at getting married again?
Interviewee: I have a great 9 to 5 job now. My kids are all grown up. The elder one is working while the younger one is just finishing school. I am definitely looking at getting married again but not anytime soon. I also spend time at our community circle and involve myself in social work on weekends.
Divorce does not need to hamper your lifestyle. It definitely isn’t the end of your life, but the beginning of a new chapter. You experience certain things in life and grow from them simultaneously too.